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For centuries, the female orgasm has been shrouded in mystery, often misunderstood, and overshadowed by myths that undermine women’s sexual pleasure. But Anna Richards, a passionate pleasure positivity advocate and founder of the ethical porn site Frolicme.com, is rewriting the script.
In this interview, Anna shares transformative insights into sex positions, emotional intimacy, and the power of communication for achieving orgasmic fulfillment.
The Science Behind the Moves: Top Positions for Female Orgasms
When it comes to optimizing pleasure, Anna highlights three data-supported sex positions that enhance the likelihood of female orgasms:
1. Coital Alignment Technique (CAT)
“Think of this as missionary’s sophisticated cousin but the man moves forward so that his chest is around the woman’s eye level,” Anna explains. This allows the shaft of the penis to rub against the clitoris.
Research shows this position significantly increases the odds of simultaneous orgasm, pointing to its unique ability to blend connection and stimulation. 
2. Cowgirl (Woman-on-Top)
“This position is a game-changer because it puts women in control,” she says. The ability to grind and thrust at her preferred rhythm allows for tailored stimulation. It’s particularly effective for those who experience G-spot orgasms and even squirting.
3. Kneeling Missionary
This variation is a creative twist on the classic missionary style. It involves the man entering the woman from a kneeling position while the woman lays on her back with her legs spread.
“The beauty of this position is that it leaves space for clitoral stimulation,” Anna shares. Since he isn’t on top of her, she can stimulate her clitoris using her hand or a toy, or he can as well do so.
Body Type, Flexibility, and Tailored Pleasure
Anna delves into the role of anatomy in pleasure, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness. “Women with a smaller distance between the clitoris and vaginal opening are more likely to orgasm during intercourse,” she reveals. However, this doesn’t mean others are excluded from the orgasmic party.
If clitoral stimulation is your key to climax, prioritize positions like kneeling missionary or doggy style, where access is easy. Alternatively, incorporate couples’ toys such as the We-Vibe Sync or Dame Products Eva for hands-free stimulation,” Anna explains.
She reassures readers that needing clitoral stimulation doesn’t mean you can’t orgasm during intercourse! In fact, synchronized orgasms during penetration can be incredibly connective and pleasurable. Communicate with your partner about when you’re each close so you can climax together.
The Role of Emotional Intimacy and Mindfulness
“Pleasure is not just physical; it’s deeply tied to the mind and emotions,” Anna emphasizes. Trust, relaxation, and mindfulness create a fertile ground for pleasure.
“I recommend that people practice mindfulness in everyday situations,” Anna advises. Notice how the soap feels against your skin in the shower or the texture of the food when you’re eating. This helps you cultivate the awareness needed to feel heightened sexual sensations.
Emotional intimacy is equally crucial. If you don’t fully trust your partner, your nervous system may remain hyper-vigilant, preventing you from turning your mind off because you’re feeling self-conscious or unsafe, Anna explains.
Make sure you fully trust any partner you get intimate with. If you have any insecurities or fears around sex, talk about them with your partner so they don’t follow you into the bedroom, she adds.
Debunking Myths About “Guaranteed” Positions
One of the most persistent myths, Anna says, is the belief in “surefire” orgasm-inducing positions. “There’s no universal magic position. Every woman is different, and finding what works for you requires experimentation and clitoral stimulation,” she explains.
Be skeptical of any source that promises guaranteed orgasms from a single position, Anna advises. But don’t give up—most women can find at least one position that works for them, especially when clitoral stimulation is included.
The Art of Sexual Communication
Anna encourages women to embrace their voices in the bedroom. “Before getting intimate with a new partner, talk about what works for you,” she advises.
It can be sexy and fun to share your preferences and experiment with different positions together. Most partners will appreciate that insight, so don’t be afraid to share what has worked for you in the past.
However, be mindful that a position that worked well with one partner may not work as effectively with another due to factors like penis shape, size, or overall body type. Stay open-minded and willing to try new things.
Conclusion: Embrace Your Pleasure, Your Way
The journey to unlocking female orgasms is deeply personal and unique to every woman. As Anna Richards emphasizes, pleasure arises from a harmonious blend of self-awareness, open communication, experimentation, and emotional intimacy.
