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What comes to mind when you think of dating multiple partners? Do you find it uncomfortable, or are you okay with it? If it is the latter, then there is a chance of you considering polyamorous relationships.
But what exactly is polyamory?
Polyamory is the practice of being involved in romantic relationships with more than one person. 
Some facts about polyamorous partnerships
Consensually being a part of non-monogamous relationships. Each partner must be aware of what they are signing up for.
1. Polyamorous relationships are not equal to open relationships
People in open relationships treat it as casual dating. They allow themselves to not communicate or inform when seeing other people but it’s not like that in polyamorous relationships.
Polyamory requires dedication. Even when it is multiple partners, it requires a lot of time. It is not a fling or casual relationship where you sleep with multiple people.
2. It is more common than you think
Around 2.4 million people practice polyamory, as per Psychology Today. It is a common practice that is often misjudged due to the traditional perception of relationships. The idea of having multiple partners seems absurd, mostly to people who prefer being a part of monogamous relationships.
3. Requires commitment
Every kind of relationship demands respect and loyalty. Being in a relationship with more than one person also demands adherence. When it is a serious relationship, the foundations are the same as all other healthy relationships.
4. Polyamory is not cheating
It is defined as a relationship when the individuals consent to it. It is a choice people make and choose to commit to. Casual relationships are different than polyamorous bonds. All the partners are aware and accept the relationship as it is.
5. Interests can shift
A person who has been a part of a polyamorous relationship can demand to be in a monogamous partnership, and vice versa. As humans, we learn from each of our experiences, and when a situation is not serving you, you can have a change of interest.
6. Polyamory is not the same as Polygamy
Polyamory is being in multiple relationships, regardless of whether you are married or not. Polygamy stands for the practice of having multiple partners within a marriage.
7. Polygamy is legal in some cultures and a few countries
While polyamory is questioned by many, polygamous marriages are legal in countries like Bhutan and Brunei. It is also a part of the Islamic culture where a man is allowed to have multiple wives (provided all conditions are fulfilled within the marriage).
8. Polyamory can exist within the same sex
People within the LGBTQIA+ community can have polyamorous relationships. The choice of who you want to have as multiple partners still remains yours.
9. Polyamory is as ethical as monogamy
The judgement towards polyamory comes mostly from individuals who prefer having romantic/sexual partnerships with a single person. It is often misunderstood with the idea of open relationships or casual dating.
10. Not a pressure
Having multiple partners and managing multiple relationships can sound pressurizing. However, when the individuals are aware of their responsibilities, things work out for the better. There have been reports stating that some individuals practicing polyamory have witnessed improved self-confidence and reduced anxiety.
The success of polyamorous relationships depends on several relationship dynamics. These need to be catered to and worked upon by each individual.
Relationship dynamics in polyamory
1. Communicating your needs
To have multiple partners means having clarity in what you want. Lack of communication will lead to conflicts. Opening up and expressing your needs is key to creating a healthy bond.
2. Insecurities
Having multiple partners can lead to jealousy. There can be insecurities. There are ways to handle such negative emotions. Having healthy conversations and communicating can help solve these issues.
3. Joy
Seeing your partner happy with others is a feeling of happiness for yourself. There is peace in knowing that your partner is happy. Compassion creates a space to cultivate love.
4. Embracing diverse relationships
Being with multiple partners means experiencing multiple behaviours at once. There is beauty in experiencing different emotions. The diversity also allows you to improve your communication skills. You and your partners can adapt to different situations on a personal level. There is a sense of belongingness even after having differences.
To conclude,
In a polyamory relationship, you sign up for a plethora of characteristics. These lead to your emotional and personal growth, especially in embracing romance and fostering an environment of love with multiple people.
Societies are evolving. Polyamory is engraved into modern concepts of relationships. However, its practice dates back to decades ago. When practised right, polyamory is a valid expression of intimacy.
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