How to Manage Jealousy in Relationships

Jealousy in relationships often isn’t about your partner themselves; it’s about what their presence (or absence) triggers within you.
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How to Manage Jealousy in Relationships

Jealousy in relationships is like an unexpected storm—it brews suddenly, unannounced, and threatens even the strongest bonds. This guide will delve deep into the complex world of jealousy within relationships, providing actionable strategies to combat its negative impact

For Africans in the diaspora, navigating jealousy in a relationship can take on an extra layer of complexity. Maybe you met your partner back home in Nigeria, but now they’re working in London, or perhaps you’re in South Africa and your boo is chasing their dreams in Atlanta. 

Distance can surely stir the pot of jealousy, but fear not! With a little understanding and some open communication, you can tame the green-eyed monster and strengthen your bond.

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By understanding the root of your jealousy you can address it head on Image source Freepik

Unearthing the Roots: Why Does Jealousy Crop Up?

Jealousy in relationships often isn’t about your partner themselves; it’s about what their presence (or absence) triggers within you. Let’s say you’re video chatting with your partner in New York, and they casually mention their colleague Sarah always cracks them up. 

Suddenly, visions of witty Sarah filling your partner’s coffee breaks dance in your head. This jealousy might stem from a deeper insecurity about your own sense of humor, or a fear that the physical distance weakens your connection.

Facing Your Fears: Owning Your Jealousy

The first step to tackling jealousy is acknowledging it. Pretending it doesn’t exist is like trying to ignore a rogue puff-puff seller at a Lagos street corner – it’ll just get louder. Take some time for introspection. Ask yourself:

  • What exactly am I jealous of?
  • Is it Sarah’s humor, or the fact that she gets to see my partner in person?
  • Does this tie back to a past experience of betrayal or insecurity?

By understanding the root of your jealousy, you can address it head-on.

Communication is Key: Talking it Out Transatlantic Style

Once you’ve identified the source of your jealousy,  open up to your partner. Don’t launch into accusations about Sarah (though that late-night text might be a good conversation starter). 

Instead, try something like, “Hey babe, when you mentioned Sarah, I felt a little twinge of jealousy.  I think it’s because I miss seeing you in person and having those laughs with you.”

This honest communication allows your partner to understand your feelings and reassure you. Maybe they can tell you a funny story about a work goof Sarah made, reminding you that you’re the one who truly makes them laugh.

Building Trust: Actions Speak Louder Than Distance

While communication is crucial, don’t underestimate the power of actions. If distance is fueling your jealousy, prioritize quality time. 

Schedule regular video calls where you truly connect, not just check in. Maybe plan a virtual movie night or cook a meal together (following the same recipe in your respective kitchens).

In the diaspora, staying connected often involves embracing technology. Send funny memes or flirty messages throughout the day.

If you’re feeling insecure, express your love and appreciation through thoughtful gestures. Maybe you send a care package filled with their favorite snacks or a sweet, handwritten note.

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If social media scrolling is a jealousy trigger discuss healthy boundaries Image source Freepik

Remember, You’re a Team: Working Together to Squash Jealousy

Jealousy can be a signal that something needs attention in your relationship. But remember, you and your partner are a team. Work together to address your insecurities and build a foundation of trust. Here are some additional tips:

  • Set Healthy Boundaries: If social media scrolling is a jealousy trigger, discuss healthy boundaries. Maybe you agree to limit checking each other’s “likes” or avoid following potential romantic interests.
  • Practice Self-Care: Feeling good about yourself is the ultimate defense against jealousy. Prioritize activities that make you feel confident and fulfilled, whether it’s joining a dance class in Johannesburg or finally conquering that Jollof rice recipe.
  • Seek Professional Help: If jealousy is causing significant distress or impacting your relationship, consider seeking professional help from a therapist who specializes in couples counseling.

Conclusion: How to Manage Jealousy in Relationships

By understanding your emotions, communicating openly, and working together, you can transform jealousy from a monster into a manageable bump in the road.

Remember, a strong relationship can weather any distance, as long as you face challenges  with love, understanding, and a little bit of fun. After all, laughter,  like delicious pounded yam,  is a dish best shared – even virtually!

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