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You know how people are using those AI chatbots for everything these days? Well, guess what – they’re now using them to write love texts! I know, right?
It’s Valentine’s Day, and Adjoa is beaming as she opens a love text from her boyfriend, Kofi. The words are poetic, deeply romantic, and flow like something out of a Jane Austen novel.
But as she reads, something feels… off. Kofi has never been much of a writer. Suspicious, she types a few lines into Google, and—boom!—she finds an eerily similar version online. The realization hits: Kofi didn’t write this. ChatGPT did.
Betrayed or touched? That’s the question many people are grappling with as AI-generated love texts become more common. But should you be offended if your partner uses ChatGPT to craft a romantic message? Let’s explore this from both sides.
Receiving an AI-Generated Love Text This Valentine: Sweet or Staged?
For the receiver, a love letter is more than just words on paper—it’s a glimpse into their partner’s heart. So, when you find out your heartfelt note was written by an algorithm rather than the person who claims to love you, it can sting.
Imagine Tariro in Paris, sipping coffee at Café de Flore, rereading a beautifully written message from her long-distance boyfriend, Mtendere.
The letter describes his longing for her, the way he misses the scent of her perfume, and how he counts down the days until they meet again. She’s touched—until she learns that Mtendere simply fed a prompt into ChatGPT and copied the result.
“Did he really mean any of it?” she wonders.
The disappointment comes from the feeling that AI-generated words lack effort and authenticity. A love letter isn’t just about the words—it’s about the thought, time, and emotion behind them. If AI is doing the heavy lifting, does the sentiment even count?
For some, discovering that a machine helped craft such intimate words can feel like finding out their partner used a stand-in for a romantic date. It’s personal, and AI makes it feel transactional.
Writing an AI-Generated Love Text: A Shortcut or a Thoughtful Touch?
Now, let’s flip the script. What if someone isn’t naturally good with words but still wants to express their love meaningfully?
Take Obinna, a software engineer in San Francisco. He adores his girlfriend, Aissatou, but when it comes to writing love letters, he freezes. He knows his words will never sound as poetic as he wants them to.
So, he turns to ChatGPT, not to replace his emotions, but to refine them. He asks the AI to help him craft a letter that captures his feelings, tweaking it until it truly reflects his heart.
For Obinna, AI isn’t a shortcut—it’s a tool. Just like using Grammarly for grammar checks or Google Translate for a love note in another language, ChatGPT helps him communicate better. His love is real; he just needs help putting it into words.
To many, using AI in this way isn’t deceitful—it’s like getting help from a friend who’s a great writer. But the key lies in intent. If you use AI to enhance your feelings, that’s different from letting it do all the work without personal input.
How to Balance AI and Authenticity in Love Texts
Here’s the deal—using AI isn’t automatically bad, but you have to do it right. Here’s how:
1. Use AI to start, not finish
Use AI to get ideas, but don’t stop there. Personalize it. If you’re in Abuja, mention the sunsets you’ve watched together at Millennium Park. If you’re in New York, talk about the time you both tried Jollof rice at that tiny Harlem spot.
2. Handwrite the final version
Don’t just send a text or email. Write it by hand. Yes, it takes longer, but it shows effort. That handwritten note with your scribbles, even if messy, will mean more than any digital perfection.
3. Be honest
If you used AI, say so. You can frame it like this: “I used ChatGPT to help me say what I feel, but these are my words and my emotions.” Being upfront prevents misunderstandings later.
4. Add real memories
AI doesn’t know about that time you both stayed up all night talking under the stars in Lekki or when you tried fufu and egusi soup for the first time together. Add these details to make the letter truly yours.
5. Don’t make it a habit
If every love note you send is AI-generated, it starts to look lazy. Use AI occasionally, not every time you want to say “I love you.”
The Bottom Line: Effort Matters More Than Method
So, should you be offended if your partner used ChatGPT for a love note? That depends. If they just copy-pasted a generic message—yes, be annoyed. It shows they didn’t put in the effort. But if they used AI to articulate their real feelings, give them some credit.
In relationships, effort counts more than the method. Whether you’re in Lagos, London, Nairobi, or New York, the principle is the same. It’s not about whether AI helped write the letter; it’s about whether your partner cared enough to make it personal.
Remember, AI can generate words, but it can’t generate feelings. That part is up to you. So, use AI if you must—but make sure your heart is in it.
