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Dating a liar can be emotionally draining, and sometimes the signs are as subtle as the smoke from a well-seasoned suya grill
We’ve all been there. You meet someone captivating, someone who makes the Sunday white rice with stew taste even better. Dates are filled with laughter, conversation flows like palm wine, and future plans get sketched out with the confidence of a master artist.
But then, a tiny seed of doubt sprouts. Is everything they say really true? Here are 5 unexpected signs you might be dating a liar. 
1. The Elusive Squad
You’ve heard all about their amazing friends – Aisha, the investment banker who travels the world, or Kwesi, the famous musician. But every attempt to meet this incredible squad gets deflected.
Excuses range from “Aisha’s super busy closing a multi-million dollar deal in Dubai” to “Kwesi’s on a surprise tour with Beyoncé.” A genuine partner would be happy to introduce you to their circle, especially if things are getting serious. If the social circle remains a mystery, it might be time to investigate further.
2. The King/Queen of Vagueness
Africans are known for their expressive language, but when your partner’s responses are perpetually shrouded in ambiguity, it could be a red flag. They might dodge questions with phrases like “It’s complicated” or “That’s a long story,” especially when it comes to their work, past relationships, or family.
Maybe they claim to be an “entrepreneur” but never explain what they actually do. This lack of clarity can be a deliberate tactic to keep you in the dark. Trust is built on open communication, and a partner who thrives on vagueness might have something to hide.
3. The Broken Phone Pro
We’ve all experienced a dead phone or misplaced charger. But if your partner’s phone seems to have a life of its own, disappearing at inconvenient moments or needing a “sudden” battery change right before a potentially awkward conversation, it’s a cause for concern.
Maybe they claim their phone “fell in the egusi soup” one too many times, or conveniently “forgot” it whenever plans change at the last minute. A healthy relationship shouldn’t require digital Houdini acts.
4. The Borrower with Amnesia
Remember that loan you gave them a while back to “hold them over until payday?” Payday comes and goes, yet repayment seems to be stuck in the same traffic jam as Lagos rush hour.
They might offer elaborate stories about unexpected car troubles (eaten by a stray goat, perhaps?) or promise to pay you back “next week for sure,” but that week never arrives. This doesn’t necessarily mean they’re a liar, but it can be indicative of a bigger issue with honesty and responsibility.
5. The One-Upmanship Olympian
We all love a good story, but if your partner seems to constantly embellish theirs, be on the lookout. Maybe their weekend trip to Ghana involved saving a village from a rogue plantain chip shortage (highly unlikely), or their childhood involved befriending a lion cub (even more unlikely).
These fantastical tales might seem harmless at first, but they could be a sign of a deeper need to impress and a difficulty with the truth.
Conclusion: 5 Unexpected Signs You Might Be Dating a Liar
Remember, these are just a few pointers. Trust your gut! If something feels off, it probably is. Open and honest communication is essential for any relationship to thrive.
Don’t be afraid to ask questions and have direct conversations. If your partner is truly invested in you, they’ll be happy to address your concerns.
Dating a liar can be a recipe for heartbreak. By being aware of these unexpected signs, you can protect yourself and build strong, honest connections.
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