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Are you feeling like you’ve been neglecting your hygiene and your little one won’t stop crying during your first year of motherhood? Don’t worry, you’re not the only one. Many new mothers feel the same way, but there are ways to embrace joy and connection during this special time.
Get ready to dive into the world of Dr. Susan Kuczmarski, a prolific author with six books under her belt, including the highly acclaimed Becoming a Happy Family: Pathways to the Family Soul.
In this article, we’ll explore her invaluable “Three S’s” method, a powerful principle to guide you through the first month of becoming a mother. Joining us on this enlightening journey is Lynn Robinson, an intuitive advisor and author of Divine Intuition.
Together, they will guide you on how to take a step back, find harmony, and simplify your life, all while nurturing a strong bond with your precious little one. Although the advice provided is based on expert knowledge, keep in mind that what is effective for one person may not be effective for everyone.
Let me walk you through the method. 
1. Step Back: Embrace Patience and Let Your Baby Be Your Guide
Parents can lead most effectively by allowing their children, regardless of age, to navigate their own path. From the moment they are born, babies have an innate ability to communicate their needs, even without words. Sometimes they cry, wiggle, or just stare at us.
Babies give you that look like they hold some secret knowledge. And let’s be real, they do. It’s your responsibility as a parent to tune into these signals and respond appropriately.
So, sometimes, the best thing you can do is take a deep breath, step back, and observe their cues. Are they hungry? Tired? Frustrated?
Here’s why that’s important:
By stepping back and really tuning in to your baby, you’re not just reading their signals, you’re building a bond that’s unbreakable. In those quiet moments of observation, you truly get to know your little one’s likes, dislikes, and unique characteristics.
However, understanding your baby goes beyond just that, and it’s about giving yourself permission to slow down, to soak in every precious moment.
2. Seek Balance: Embrace Both Logic and Intuition
In our brains, there are two sides: the logical and the intuitive. But what does that mean? Let me lift the veil for you.
Dr. Kuczmarski explains that the left brain possesses an analytical, take-charge, and time-conscious nature. In contrast, the right brain, known as the “silent partner,” is visual, intuitive, subjective, flow-oriented, and timeless.
Matter of fact, most parenting materials focus on the logical part of the brain, emphasizing the importance of schedules, routines, and sleep training methods. While these can be helpful, Dr. Kuczmarski stresses that being a mother involves using both logic and intuition, as relationship building engages the entire brain.
Intuition expert Robinson advises new moms: “As a new mom, you’ll get lots of advice from well-meaning friends and family. But the best wisdom will come from within—your own intuition. Learn to check in with it and trust it.”
Let’s illustrate this with a real-life example from a mother’s experience
One mom recounted a story of being at a family cookout when her little one became restless. Ignoring the suggestions of others, she trusted her instincts. She brought her baby to a peaceful space, and before long, he drifted off to sleep. It was a moment of pure intuition, no second-guessing required.
Now, this is important because using both sides of the brain creates families that think and express emotions openly, freely, and wholeheartedly.
3. Simplify: Prioritise Your Well-being to Better Care for Your Baby
Start by identifying the things that stress you out in your life and find ways to minimize or get rid of them.
How can you do that?
Well, you can start by delegating tasks, setting boundaries, or simply asking for help. These are all ways to lighten your load and make things easier for yourself.
Once you’ve taken care of that, it’s time to focus on activities that truly bring you joy and help you relax. For example, why not engage in some spontaneous play with your family? Many people think that fun has to be planned, but true play should bring about a deep and spontaneous sense of joy.
According to Dr. Kuczmarski, play can be as simple as laughter, jumping, celebrating, and being happy, even if it’s just for a few stolen moments during nap time.
Let’s look at an example of how you can have some family fun: you can dance together, sing at the top of your lungs, and watch the beautiful sunset. Family play doesn’t have to be conventional; it can be wild and unconventional!
Here’s the point—taking care of yourself is not selfish at all; it’s essential. When you’re well-rested and happy, you’ll be able to take better care of your baby. And the best part is that your relationships will grow deeper and flourish.
You’ve Got This, Mama!
The first year of motherhood is a whirlwind, but it’s also a special time filled with love, discovery, and the joy of watching your little one grow.
Dr. Kuczmarski’s tips can guide you through your first year of motherhood. Keep in mind you’re strong and cherished. By following the Three S’s—Step Back, Seek Balance, Simplify—you’ll build a strong bond with your baby.
So, take a moment to relax, mama. You’ve got this! Now, go out there and embrace the joys (and challenges) of being a mom. It’s a journey you’ll always treasure.
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