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- In most cases, people are afraid to enter into romantic relationships out of fear of being cheated on
- The root of the fear of infidelity often stems from personal experiences or those of significant figures in our lives
- In this article, we’ll discuss an expert’s insights on practical steps to overcome the fear of an unfaithful or cheating partner
In our previous article, we uncovered the multitude of reasons behind the fear of entering romantic relationships. For many, the dread of infidelity stands as a towering obstacle, threatening the formation and sustenance of healthy partnerships.
Curiously driven by this concern, The Love Central embarked on a quest to bring insights to light, and our spotlight turned toward Stefanos Sifandos, a seasoned relationship coach with over 15 years of invaluable experience.
According to Sifandos, “When I work with clients on matters relating to the fear of an unfaithful partner, I encourage them to share their story to understand the root of their fear, after which we go through a series of healing processes”. 
To further buttress this point, Sifandos shared the story of 37-year-old Alice, whose fear of romantic relationships was deeply rooted in her parents’ experience.
According to him: “Such fears are often traced back to personal experiences or those of significant figures in our lives”.
In Alice’s case, her parents’ relationship crumbled due to her father’s betrayal, leaving behind a legacy of bitterness that seeped into her own perspective on love.
Alice’s journey was marked by a relentless cycle of dread and disappointment. Her fear of being cheated on led her to approach relationships with a cautious demeanor, yet time and again, her partners seemed to embody the very behavior she feared most.
This unending loop of pain pushed Alice to adopt a defensive stance, one that wasn’t conducive to her happiness or growth.
Conquering fear of being in an unfaithful relationship
“When I recognized that Alice’s avoidance strategy wasn’t a solution but a mere escape, I emphasized the importance of healing before making any life-altering decisions,” Sifandos says.
For a successful healing journey, Alice needed to forgive herself and shed the self-imposed guilt she had placed on herself resulting from outside behavior. She needs to be compassionate with her body.
“So I introduced her to a somatic approach that bridges the gap between her mind and body, helping her cultivate a sense of security from within”.
The relationship expert revealed that Alice engaged in mindfulness practices to help regulate her emotions, especially during times of anxiety.
She needed to let go of bottling up emotions as a coping mechanism and gently replace it with a more constructive approach to embracing and expressing her feelings.
Alice also embarked on a self-discovery journey.
Instead of depending on outside factors—in this case, relationship partners—to determine her joy and self-worth, I encouraged her to explore her hobbies and engage in activities that kindled her joy, he explains
Part of her therapy also included mastering the art of effective communication. As someone who is used to bottling up emotions, it was important for Alice to communicate her expectations and set healthy boundaries in future relationships.
Over time, these transformative processes helped Alice boost her confidence and self-worth, giving her a new orientation about future relationships.
Anyone who suffers from the worry of being in an unfaithful relationship should consider Sifandos’ insights on:
- Seeking professional support: Past wounds can cast long shadows on our present. A therapist’s guidance can help you uncover the roots of your fears and provide tools to cope with them.
- Embracing and practicing mindfulness: Focus on the present without getting upset about the past or future. It helps you feel calm and more in control.
- Setting Healthy Boundaries: Healthy relationships need clear rules about what’s okay and what’s not. This reduces your vulnerability to emotional harm.
- Prioritizing personal happiness regardless of your relationship status: Being in a relationship or not should not define your happiness.
Conclusion on practical steps to conquer lingering fears of infidelity
So, if you’re afraid your partner might cheat, remember that it’s not your fault. Talking to a professional, like a therapist, is a strong thing to do.
Healing means learning about yourself, setting rules, and finding happiness in your own life. Trusting yourself and others is possible, but it starts with believing you’re valuable.
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