Marriage is a beautiful experience that requires both partners to come together and declare, “I do” and “I am ready to show my love and commitment for now and always.”
I recently spoke with a couple who had been married for 25 years. Their marriage wasn’t just defined by the number of years—it was the spark and love that still existed between them that intrigued me. I was amazed that even after 25 years, they still made time for each other, and their relationship remained strong and vibrant.
Curious, I asked, “How did you do this?”
They smiled and said, “There are 8 rules that can make a difference and sustain a marriage.”
One key point they shared was the importance of a positive mindset. Having the right attitude toward marriage is essential. Many people who are not yet married may feel that a long-lasting marriage is impossible, but with the right mindset and these 8 rules, your marriage can truly thrive.
Rule 1: Prioritize Your Time Together
In today’s busy world, finding quality time together can be challenging—especially if both partners work long hours, or one works remotely while the other is on-site. However, when you’re intentional about your relationship and spending time together, you’ll find ways to prioritize and carve out meaningful moments for each other.
To build a strong and lasting connection, your marriage should come first—it is your most intimate bond. Make time for picnics, date nights, prayers, and shared activities that strengthen your relationship and keep the spark alive.
Rule 2: Apologize and Forgive
Apologizing isn’t always easy—it requires humility and a genuine willingness to acknowledge your mistakes. Many people say, “Don’t let the sun set on your anger” or “Don’t go to bed upset.”
A strong marriage is built on two individuals who are willing to admit mistakes and work toward resolution. When you’ve wronged your partner, don’t hesitate to communicate and apologize. Likewise, when your partner offends you, choose to forgive and move forward together.
Rule 3: Show Affection Daily
It’s often the little things, such as helping your partner with chores when they’re busy, reminding them of important events, charging their devices if they tend to forget, or surprising them with thoughtful gifts that count most. And this is not about the money spent but the intention behind your actions.
If you aim to nurture a strong marriage, be intentional about showing affection and appreciation. Learn your partner’s love language and express your feelings in a way that truly resonates with them.
Rule 4: Prioritize Open Communication
The importance of communication cannot be overstated—many dismiss it as a cliché, but it is truly vital. I once heard of a couple who divorced over something as trivial as how they squeezed toothpaste. Such misunderstandings could have been avoided with open and effective communication.
For a marriage that thrives, make meaningful conversations a habit. Share your plans, discuss your fears, and grow together. Intentional communication fosters understanding, strengthens connection, and sustains a lasting bond.
Rule 5: Build a Foundation of Honesty and Trust
It’s often said that a marriage cannot thrive without trust—and that couldn’t be more true. Trust isn’t built overnight; it takes weeks, months, and years of consistent actions to strengthen this foundation.
Cultivate trust with your partner by openly communicating any fears or concerns that may stand in the way. Start today—be honest, be transparent, and nurture a relationship where trust can flourish.
Rule 6: Intimacy Goes Beyond Just Sex
While sexual intimacy is important in marriage, true intimacy goes beyond the physical—it’s also building a deep emotional bond. This includes calling each other by pet names, saying “I love you” daily, and understanding your partner’s emotional state.
Many partners are physically present but emotionally distant. Take intentional steps to foster emotional intimacy so your partner feels safe, valued, and deeply connected to you.
The Golden Rule That Can Make a Difference
A lasting, fulfilling marriage starts with you. Be intentional about doing things right—commit to learning, unlearning, and growing together.
When both partners understand their roles and act accordingly, they create a foundation for a blissful and enduring marriage.
