How I Broke Free from Sex Addiction

Ah, sex addiction. That alluring siren that can captivate even the best of us. But let’s not romanticize it; sex addiction is a serious condition that affects millions of people worldwide

I have a confession to make: I was a sex addict. And no, this is not a humble brag or a clickbait headline. This was a serious condition that had affected my life for years. 

Sex addiction was not about having a blast in the bedroom, or being a daredevil with my partner. It was about having a crazy itch to engage in sexual behaviors, no matter the consequences, risks, or harm to myself or others. 

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It made me feel helpless, embarrassed, and lonely.

What is Sex Addiction?

According to Wikipedia, sex addiction is a “state characterized by compulsive participation or engagement in sexual activity, particularly sexual intercourse, despite negative consequences.”

To me, sexual addiction is when someone thinks about sex all the time and can’t stop doing things related to sex, even if they cause problems or make them unhappy. It’s like being addicted to candy, but instead of candy, it’s sex.

You may wonder what sex addiction looks like. How do you know if you or someone you love is a sex addict? Well, there is no definitive answer, as sex addiction can manifest in different ways for different people. But there are a handful of signs. 

Signs of Sexual Addiction 

There are many signs that show that someone might be addicted to sex addiction. Here are some I can speak of: 

• Having obsessive sexual thoughts that interfere with other aspects of life.

• Masturbation and porn addiction.

• Feeling shame, guilt, or depression after sexual acts.

• Excluding other activities or responsibilities because of sex.

• Engaging in risky or inappropriate sexual behaviors

Causes of Sex Addiction

How did I become a sex addict? Well, it’s not like I woke up one day and decided to ruin my life with sex. It was a gradual process that started with curiosity, escalated with experimentation, and spiraled out of control with compulsion.

Sex addiction is not a simple matter of liking sex too much. It’s a complex disorder that involves psychological, emotional, and behavioral factors.

Some people may have underlying mental health conditions that make them more prone to sex addiction. They may use sex as a way to escape, numb, or self-medicate their emotional pain. 

Sex addiction may also be influenced by emotional factors, such as stress, loneliness, boredom, anger, or shame. These feelings may trigger the urge to seek sexual stimulation or gratification, which may provide temporary relief or distraction. 

Sex addiction may also involve behavioral factors, such as habits, routines, or environmental cues. Some people may develop a habit of engaging in sexual activities at certain times, places, or situations, such as when they are alone, bored, stressed, or online. 

How I Broke Free From Sexual Addiction

Breaking free from sex addiction was not easy. It took a lot of courage, determination, and support. But it was worth it.

I admitted I had a problem. This was the first and most important step. I realized that my sexual behaviors were out of control and causing me more harm than good. 

I stopped denying, rationalizing, or minimizing my addiction. I acknowledged that I needed help and that I could not do it alone. I set a quit date and made a plan. I decided when and how I would stop engaging in my addictive sexual behaviors.

I changed my lifestyle. I removed any reminders or temptations of my addiction from my home. I blocked or deleted any websites, apps that facilitated my sexual activities. I avoided places or situations that triggered my urges. 

Most importantly, I practiced meditation, soulful prayers and gratitude every day. These spiritual disciplines helped me connect with myself and others in a deeper way. They also helped me cope with stress, anxiety, shame and guilt. 

All in All

Opening up to someone you trust is crucial in overcoming sex addiction. I found solace in sharing my struggle with a great companion. 

Connecting with others allowed me to break free from the isolation and shame, providing a support system that played a vital role in my recovery. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

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