The Art of the Approach: How to Read Social Cues in Modern Dating

With a little guidance on how to read social cues, you can save yourself from many an awkward dating encounters.
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The Art of the Approach: How to Read Social Cues in Modern Dating
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Dating can feel like trying to decipher ancient hieroglyphics sometimes. You think everything is going well over drinks at that cozy bougie bar, but then bam! You realize their side-eye glances and stiff posture meant they were not feeling it. The good news is, with a little guidance on how to read social cues, you can save yourself from many an awkward encounter

In our modern dating landscape of apps, situationships, and non-traditional setups, being able to pick up on subtle hints and body language is a superpower. 

Think about it – our human ancestors had to be experts at reading social cues on the savannah for survival, analyzing slight movements to detect prey or predators. These days, it’s just as crucial if you want to survive the dating scene minefield.

So what exactly are these mysterious “social cues” I’m talking about? They’re the unspoken hints people give off through body language, vocal tone, and microexpressions. Things like:

  • Sustained eye contact or wandering eyes
  • Subtle smiles, tight lips, or furrowed brows
  • Fidgeting hands, feet tapping, or a rigid pose  
  • Whether they’re angling toward or away from you 
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Sustained eye contact or wandering eyes Image source Freepik

How to Read Social Cues in Modern Dating

Mastering how to read these cues is an art form. Let’s break down some key aspects:

Tone of Voice

Listen closely to how someone speaks, not just what they say. Are they responding with an engaged, upbeat tone that rises at the end like they’re asking a question and wanting you to continue? Or does their voice sound awkward, monotone, or irritated? A bothered or sarcastic tone is a clear indicator it’s not going well.

Body Language 

This is huge. Crossed arms or legs signal defensiveness. Excessive blinking or throat-clearing hints at anxiety or discomfort. Avoiding eye contact or turning their body away from you screams disinterest. On the flip side, open posture leaning in, steady eye contact, and mirroring your movements/gestures are very good signs.    

Context

Always consider the setting and situation when reading social cues. Cues can look a bit different in a high-energy environment like a packed nightclub versus a quiet intimate setting like a cozy date night at a low-key lounge. Reading the room dynamic is just as important as reading your date’s vibe.

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Reading the room dynamic is just as important as reading your dates vibe Image source Freepik

Final Thoughts on How to Read Social Cues in Modern Dating

Of course, you can’t become a social cue-reading ninja overnight. It takes practice, self-awareness, and putting yourself out there to hone those skills. The more genuine interactions you have, the better you’ll get at discerning all those subtle signs.

It’s also important to trust your intuition. If something feels off, despite what someone’s words and actions are saying on a surface level, there’s likely a reason. Honoring those gut feelings is wise when navigating the dating world.

So for all my Africans in the Diaspora out there in the dating trenches – study up on how to read social cues like eye contact, body language, and vocal tones. It might just be the code you need to crack modern love and avoid total kamunan omissions.

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