Understanding the Rules of Breastfeeding Etiquette

You’re at Westfield Stratford City, London’s bustling shopping haven when your 3-month-old starts wailing. It’s feeding time, and you’re miles away from the comfort of your Ghanaian compound. What’s a diaspora mom to do? Let’s dive into the nitty-gritty of breastfeeding etiquette

Back in Accra, you could plop down on any tro-tro and feed your baby without a second glance. But here in Amsterdam? The rules are as different as fufu and frikandel. Don’t worry, though. We’ll get you navigating these foreign waters like a pro.

The Great Cover-Up Debate

In many Western countries, the sight of a bare breast can cause more commotion than a delayed delivery. While it’s perfectly legal to breastfeed openly in places like the UK, USA, and most of Europe, a bit of discretion can save you from awkward encounters. 

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Consider a Nustylz nursing cover – it’s like a fashionable tent for your baby’s dining pleasure. Or master the ‘two-shirt method’: wear a tank top under a loose T-shirt. Pull the T-shirt up and the tank top down. Voila! Instant, subtle access.

Timing: The Breastfeeding Tetris

Try to time your outings around your baby’s feeding schedule. If you know little Kwame gets hungry every 2 hours, plan that trip to Tesco accordingly. But let’s be real – babies are as unpredictable as London weather. 

If you’re caught out, places like John Lewis and Mothercare often have dedicated nursing rooms. In a pinch, Starbucks usually has comfy armchairs perfect for a discreet feed.

The Lightning-Fast Latch

Practice makes perfect. At home, time yourself. Can you get the baby latched in under 30 seconds? If not, keep practicing.

It’s like mastering the art of wrapping your gele – it takes time, but soon you’ll do it with your eyes closed. A quick latch means less exposure and less stress for you.

Location, Location, Location

While you can legally breastfeed anywhere in public in many Western countries, some spots are more comfortable than others. In the UK, look for the ‘Breastfeeding Welcome’ stickers on shop windows. 

In the US, many malls have ‘Mother’s Rooms’. But if you’re feeling bold and your baby’s hungry, that bench in Central Park is fair game. Just be prepared for the occasional raised eyebrow.

Handling the Onlookers

You might encounter stares ranging from curious to downright rude. Channel your inner Yaa Asantewaa and meet their gaze with a confident “Akwaaba!” (Welcome!). 

If someone seems uncomfortable, a simple “My baby is hungry, and this is how I feed him” usually does the trick. Remember, in countries like Scotland, it’s illegal for anyone to try to stop you from breastfeeding in public.

Educate with Efo

When faced with ignorance, serve up some education, seasoned with patience. Explain how in many African cultures, breastfeeding is seen as natural and normal. 

Share how the World Health Organization recommends exclusive breastfeeding for the first six months. Who knows? You might just convert that frowning face into an ally.

Find Your Diaspora Dairy Queens

Connect with other African moms in your area. Facebook groups like ‘African Moms in London’ or ‘Nigerian Mummies in New York’ can be goldmines of support and advice. These sisters-in-milk can share their favorite nursing spots and give you the boost you need to feed with confidence.

Conclusion: Understanding the Rules of Breastfeeding Etiquette

From negotiating nursing in Nando’s to managing mealtime in the metro, mastering breastfeeding etiquette abroad is all about confidence, preparation, and a dash of humor. 

With these tips, you’ll be nourishing your little one with the grace of an African queen, no matter where you find yourself.

So go forth and let down that milk with pride, knowing you’re not just feeding a baby, but nurturing the next generation of the African diaspora.

READ: Common Mistakes New Moms Make During Breastfeeding  

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